Doyenne of Big Bright Bulb

The older we get, the harder it is to make new friends.

I’m not entirely sure why that is, but I suspect a lot of it has to do with the ways in which our lives become routinized and settled. In general, we are exposed to fewer new situations and communities, and so we just don’t meet as many new people, and if we do—well, we don’t have the time to just hang out and get to know each other in the way we did when we were young or in school.

But I think there’s also the likelihood that, as we get older, we become more sure of our judgment. We’ve been around the block. We are quicker to sort people into categories of “casual acquaintance, no more” or “this one’s a keeper.” Our time has so many competing claims upon it, that we become more ruthless about those with whom we spend it.

As for me, I’ve never been particularly prolific in the acquisition of friends. I have, however, been inordinately blessed in the quality of those I’ve been lucky enough to forge close friendships with. And so when I meet a person with whom I hit it off especially well, right off the bat, I certainly take notice.

And so it was with Crystal. I encountered her at a professional meet-up last June, the kind of event I know is good for me, but that I attend fairly reluctantly and with slightly gritted teeth. The moment we started talking, though, I was struck with her humor, intelligence, generosity, and warmth. She immediately struck me as someone I wanted to know better.

Since then, we’ve met up regularly to have lunch and exchange stories about our work and everything else too. Crystal is chockfull of great information for beginning entrepreneurs (see her website Big Bright Bulb), and she has shared her expertise with me unstintingly. As valuable as that has been, her personal support and enthusiasm have meant even more to me. How kind was it for her to be willing to be a model for Quellebelle? I hope I will get to do something equally helpful and generous for her one day.

I love the way that Crystal looks at the world: wry, optimistic, curious. You can see it in the expression on her face in this picture. I hope to have many opportunities to hear her perspective on life and to share our adventures in the wide world with one another.

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Tryst, Adams Morgan, DCWhen it’s chilly out, and the world seems more than usually harsh…
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  2. [...] the bittersweet acknowledgment that today was the last in-person lunchfest with the ever-marvelous Crystal for at least a good long while. I’m hoping that we’ll keep our tradition going through [...]

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